tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post8140121307766847422..comments2019-10-19T07:21:20.161-07:00Comments on Mama not Mummy: What's DNA got to do with being a parent?MamanotMummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13450574036154469041noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-73724421224378981662013-04-29T13:00:51.981-07:002013-04-29T13:00:51.981-07:00hey, im gonna quote you
'Over the past 2 yea...hey, im gonna quote you <br /><br />'Over the past 2 years there have been times when I have felt so very sad that my daughter and I don't share physical similarities and must be honest in that it has made me very possessive of her and at times I struggle to "share" her with her extended family, frightened she will feel a bond with her biological family she doesn't have with me.'<br /><br />You know I notice that I to get possessive of my daughter to and dont like sharing her either. I am sad to that my daughter doesnt look like me either and I try to tell my wife who's bio mum she just dont get it i guess she just tells me that it dont matter she will learn traits, like she will smile like you etc..BUT aside from all that, I love her to bits no matter what. I have a blog on here but Im so busy I forget to update it.<br /><br />http://klotz-pearson-family.blogspot.co.uk/Kyu-Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05538755657451364006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-48991731766546852422013-03-09T13:56:47.736-08:002013-03-09T13:56:47.736-08:00Congratulations Kate, that's lovely news :).
...Congratulations Kate, that's lovely news :).<br /><br />One thing that I am rapidly learning is that parenthood is not easy for anyone. There really is no rule book, but for some people there are more assumed roles than others. I can relate to the possessiveness you talk about already, even though our baby hasn't even been born yet!<br />XMamanotMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13450574036154469041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-63786817266077244042013-03-09T11:25:11.996-08:002013-03-09T11:25:11.996-08:00Our daughter is 2 in 3 weeks time and something we...Our daughter is 2 in 3 weeks time and something we have really noticed is how she has her own different relationship with both of us. She will go to one or other of us depending on what she wants, bio-mum when she hurts herself, me when she wants to play or go outside. We never discussed this or were that specific about what we would bring her but are fascinated by how differently she sees us. <br /><br />Over the past 2 years there have been times when I have felt so very sad that my daughter and I don't share physical similarities and must be honest in that it has made me very possessive of her and at times I struggle to "share" her with her extended family, frightened she will feel a bond with her biological family she doesn't have with me.<br /><br />My wife is getting me through this even though I have, at times, pushed her away. When rational I know my daughter sees me as her mummy and responds to me as such but sometimes the fear sets in.<br /><br />We've just found out we are pregnant with our second and our family will go on evolving.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11589812358264036632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-56732113539313902462013-03-05T10:00:53.634-08:002013-03-05T10:00:53.634-08:00Hi Kyu-Bee, thanks for sharing your experiences. I...Hi Kyu-Bee, thanks for sharing your experiences. I'm really heartened by your point about having your own bond with your child. I think that will be the thing I am most looking forward to! XMamanotMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13450574036154469041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-85777445792510019432013-03-05T09:12:24.623-08:002013-03-05T09:12:24.623-08:00Hiya, as a non-bio mother to our 4month old baby, ...Hiya, as a non-bio mother to our 4month old baby, I know where your coming from. Being a good parent doesnt always mean about being biologically related to the child. I sometimes feel upset that my daughter will never look like me, she actually looks so much like her mummy, I mean, nose, mouth eyes, chin ears, everything and I sometimes get jealous but I understand. Its sometimes hard being the non-bio parent. <br /><br />Anyways, I love being a mother, im Mama an my wife is mummy. Being the non birth mother doesnt mean I dont love my baby, I never doubted my love for her,She is MINE and I live in england so my wife and I are both on her birth certificate, were her birth parents. Im down as parent, an my wife is mother as shes the birth mum. I have a bond with my daughter that my wife dont an vice versa. My wife keeps telling me to not worry about her not looking like you, she will pick up features and traits by being raised by me. So I try not to let it bother me when ppl keep telling my wife how much she looks like her an Im standing there feeling dumb HEHE. Kyu-Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05538755657451364006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-18288641384889873382013-03-02T12:22:20.691-08:002013-03-02T12:22:20.691-08:00Good luck! R has already declared she is 'neve...Good luck! R has already declared she is 'never doing this again' so I suspect the chances of us having a second are slim...MamanotMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13450574036154469041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-51626208585177488362013-03-02T03:46:37.853-08:002013-03-02T03:46:37.853-08:00Thanks, we are currently trying to conceive number...Thanks, we are currently trying to conceive number 2, my wife will carry again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11589812358264036632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-29999343178415123332013-03-01T13:37:55.169-08:002013-03-01T13:37:55.169-08:00Thank you for your kind words - and for sharing yo...Thank you for your kind words - and for sharing your experiences too. Congrats on your daughter :) xMamanotMummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13450574036154469041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7115539468935227577.post-80574688149046490232013-03-01T11:51:21.979-08:002013-03-01T11:51:21.979-08:00I can really relate to the questions you pose.
I ...I can really relate to the questions you pose.<br /><br />I remember being in a pharmacy not long after our daughter was born (she's almost 2 now) she was in a sling and the pharmacist said i din't need to pay as I'd just had a baby. I panicked and stuttered out "Oh um she's not mine". I hated myself.<br />How could I deny this most beautiful, important and loved little girl of mine. I felt so ashamed that I had let her down.<br /><br />I'll never forget it and feel dreadful even writing it down. I've since gathered a few stock phrases for when caught unawares.<br /><br />Love this blog!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11589812358264036632noreply@blogger.com