What is very rarely discussed is the emotional impact on the other partner. In one of the pregnancy books we've got, there's a section on how the father-to-be might get a bit worried about the impact a new baby might have on his cricket and football playing, and going down the pub with his mates... Personally, I can't relate to that, although it did make me smile. More recently though I've begun to have my own stresses.
Will I be able to provide for the child?
Will I be a good enough parent?
How will we ever get our home ready in time for the baby's arrival?
How can I support R best?
If R is in a bad mood, is it a failing on my part?
This is supposed to be a happy and exciting time. Why am I so stressed?
Which all leads to guilt!
R has definitely had moments of being tearful, snappy and perhaps *whispers* irrational. But she's not alone. I have too. I think it is safe to say that *both* R and I have been able to tick off quite a few of those pregnancy emotions.
Not so long ago I read that depression and anxiety during pregnancy is more common in mums than postnatal depression. I can believe it. But I think it has a further reach than just the pregnant party.